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Lending a Hand: How to Help a Loved One With Grief

Lending a Hand: How to Help a Loved One With Grief - Bio-One of Poway

Losing a loved one affects everyone differently. While you may not know what to do or say to support someone who is grieving, being there for your loved one and showing them that you care during their time of need is one of the most valuable ways to support them. In this blog post, we will provide simple tips on how to help a loved one with grief, so you can help them in their transition.

Be Present, But Also Be Respectful of Their Process

The most important thing you can do for someone who is grieving is to be there. Listen to them, hold their hand, or sit silently with them. Your presence might be reassuring and comforting. People often apologize for crying, but it's okay to let them get emotional and express themselves. Avoid minimizing their pain or telling them that everything will be all right.

Everyone grieves differently, and it's important to respect their process. Allow them to feel what they're feeling without judgment or pressure.

Offer Practical Help

Grief can consume much energy and leave little room for everyday tasks. Offer practical help by cooking meals, walking their dog, cleaning, or running errands. These simple tasks can make a big difference and help ease the burden of the person grieving, always respecting their boundaries and preferences.

Check-In Regularly

Grief is a journey, and it takes time to heal. Checking in regularly and making time for your loved one on a regular basis shows them that you haven't forgotten about them. Even if it's just a quick text message or phone call, small gestures can help and are greatly appreciated.

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Support Their Coping Mechanisms

Everyone grieves differently, and we all have coping mechanisms that help us deal with stress and sadness. It's important to support your loved one's own way of coping. If they want to talk about the person they've lost, listen. If they want to take a break from talking about it, respect their need for space.

Avoid Judgment

Grief can lead to various emotions such as anger, sadness, regret, and guilt, which can be overwhelming. Avoid being judgmental, critical, or dismissive of their feelings and emotions. Remember that grief isn't something that can be "fixed," and we cannot speed up the healing process. As we've mentioned: be there, listen, validate their feelings, and encourage professional help if needed.

Read: Grief and Loss - Coping with Death after a Traumatic Event

If you feel overwhelmed, Bio-One can help.

We all grieve differently, and it's normal to feel helpless or overwhelmed when supporting someone grieving. However, being there for your loved one, offering practical help, and providing a nonjudgmental ear can make a big difference. Remember, it's about their journey of grieving, and you're there to lend a hand when they need it. It's okay to not have all the answers, but it's more important to show that you care.


If you feel overwhelmed or unsure of how to help a loved one with grief, Bio-One can connect you to a grief counseling or support group. We are a Mental First Aid-Certified Company and have a network of professionals who can offer guidance and support during this difficult time. So don't hesitate to reach out for help if needed.